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Unless he came clean to you on his own then there’s always a slight chance that he still might be using heroin, each and every day. And in this article, I will refer to he or she as a he, as this is the case more often than not. But the same applies to her as well. Yes, daughters, mothers and wives shoot dope too. And if you caught your daughter, girlfriend, or wife, smoking, snorting or shooting heroin then chances are she wasn't ready to come clean and quit this thing yet.
If you’ve done all you can, then all you can do now is wait and see what happens next. It’s all up to him. It’s all up to him or her to stay clean and turn their life around. And in the mean time, continue to encourage him to stay clean – if that’s what he really wants to do. The best results I keep seeing come from scenarios where the wives, girlfriends or parents of the addict some how manage to get their partners or children to read the articles on my website, yet without forcing them to do so. If you’re living with your partner or child then one of the best things that you can do for them is to print out the articles on this website, bind them together nice and neat, and place them somewhere where you know they'll see them for sure. Then before you leave, tell him, “I printed out these articles for you. I’ll leave them right here just in case you’d like to read them. It's good stuff”. That’s it. Then smile, give him a hug and a goodbye kiss and don’t mention another word about the articles. Hopefully he’ll read them on his own. Don’t say, “hey you, I printed out these articles for you to read. You better have them read and studied by the time I get home or else you’re out of here mister!” That won’t work. And chances are, you’ll come home to find your partner or child gone, along with the rest of your jewelry. If he decided to quit heroin warm turkey, with Suboxone or Methadone, then he might stay home. But if you decided that he was going to quit heroin cold turkey then chances are he’s just waiting for you to leave so he can get dressed, go out and get his fix. Unless of course, he chose to quit heroin cold turkey on his own. Then there would be much more hope for him to succeed than if he were doing this just for you. If he can come to read my articles ‘on his own’ then it’s quite possible that the articles can begin to penetrate and soften his heart. It’s quite possible that the articles can cause him to become inspired and motivated, not only to quit heroin but to also turn his life around. It happens. And I see it happen quite often. I receive emails from guys and girls who felt hopeless at first. They were completely lost. But then after reading the articles, something clicked. It gave them strength. It gave them hope for a second chance at life. It motivated them to put their foot down, quit heroin and turn their lives around. Till this day, I still find it amazing how words can move people to take action and change their lives. If you can somehow, get them to read the articles on this website without forcing it upon them then there’s a good chance that the same can happen to your partner, spouse, your son or daughter. Nevertheless, I still feel sorry for those who try their best to help their partners, children and loved ones quit heroin and end up being deceived and lied to day after day after day. Don’t give up hope yet. But at the same time, you can't allow this to continue or else all of your efforts will become a waste of time and energy. And the end result will be heartbreak and total disappointment. If he truly wants to quit, then he or she will do their best to quit this dope habit once and for all. Even if he fails on his 1st, 2nd or 3rd attempt, an honest man will come clean and ask for forgiveness, and for help. And as long as he continues to be honest with you then you can continue to help him in any way that you can. There's still much hope for the dishonest person who becomes honest, comes clean and begs for forgiveness. Yet, there is no hope for the dishonest person who remains dishonest without change or remorse. And if he keeps using and keeps lying repeatedly, then you may have to step back and make a difficult decision. How do you know if he’s still using or quitting heroin? How do you know if a Hollywood actor is acting or telling the truth? It's hard. It’s very difficult to tell when a heroin addict is acting, lying or being sincere. Sometimes it's almost impossible to tell the difference. Yet, there are indicators which can help you to know if he’s still using heroin or not. There are signs to watch for and symptoms to observe to see if he’s actually trying to quit heroin or trying to deceive you and continue to use. If he’s truly quitting heroin cold turkey, then for the first few days he or she should display the following signs of heroin withdrawal. However, keep in mind that if he knows, that you know what to look for, then he or she may fake some of the withdrawals to make you believe that they're truly quitting. They may also fake withdrawal symptoms in order to manipulate you into feeling sorry for them to give them money to supposedly buy some methadone or suboxone tablets. Then they may invent their own little juice bottle and tell you that it’s methadone. Or, they may get some tablets and tell you that they’re Suboxone tablets. Or they may get real suboxone tablets along with some heroin. Yet what they really want to buy with the money is heroin. It sounds crazy but it happens. It happens all the time. This is how guys trick their girlfriends into buying dope for them, until the girlfriend either gets smart and catches on or gets sick of it all and just leaves or throws him out, ruthless style. And to all my dope brothers and dope sisters, I’m very sorry - but I can’t allow you to keep fooling those who love you the most and who are trying to help you quit this dope habit once and for all. It’s for your own good. The best thing you can do with your life is to submit and accept their offer for help. Take it. This just might be your last chance. One might think that the idea of someone faking withdrawal symptoms is ridiculous, but it happens more often than not. Especially when they know that you’re watching and observing them. Remember, heroin turns addicts into Hollywood actors. Take note of the following withdrawal symptoms and remember which ones can and can not be faked. But in all fairness, chances of someone faking withdrawal symptoms are very slim. And one who does so may not be able to be helped at the moment.
One who is quitting heroin cold turkey will also experience bone crushing leg pains or what they call restless legs. If he's quitting heroin ‘cold turkey’ then he’ll be complaining of the pain in his legs all day long. He may squeeze them or even punch them to make the pain go away, but it won’t. This is a positive sign that he's going through withdrawal and is actually quitting heroin cold turkey. Yet, this too can be faked. Anyone can say their legs are hurting. And anyone can squeeze and punch their legs in order to have you believe that they truly are in withdrawal and therefore quitting heroin cold turkey. If he’s not complaining about the pain in his legs then he may still be using. But again, chances are that he's not faking and it’s better to give him the benefit of the doubt. Remember, if he truly wants to quit heroin then most likely, he'll do his best to do so. Even if he fails on his 1st, 2nd or 3rd attempt to quit, he’ll do his best to get back up and try again. This type of person can be helped. But if you were the one who caught him getting high or found drug paraphernalia laying around instead of him coming clean on his own then chances are, he wasn't ready to quit at that moment. And he might be sorry, but only because he got caught. He may attempt to quit heroin just for you. Or, he may say he's going to quit just for your sake. And he may just go along for the ride just to make you happy and keep the peace. Yet behind the scenes, he might continue to use heroin as secretively as possible. So for this reason, it's important for you to know that some withdrawal symptoms can be faked and that some people will actually go through such extremes in order to keep the peace but to keep on using heroin as well. Stomach cramps: If he’s quitting heroin cold turkey then most likely he’ll be complaining about stomach cramps. Yet, this too can be faked. Anyone can say their stomach hurts to have you believe that they're in withdrawal and therefore quitting heroin cold turkey. But again, chances are that he’s not faking and it’s better to give him the benefit of the doubt. Muscle cramps: If he’s quitting heroin cold turkey, then his whole body will be hurting. He’ll be complaining non stop. Yet anything that you can not see happening on the outside can be faked. But hopefully he’s not faking any of this. Unless he starts asking you to give him some money to supposedly go out and buy some methadone or suboxone, then you know he’s faking, or, truly suffering yet trying to manipulate you to give him some money so that he can go out and buy some dope. Anxiety and panic attacks: If he’s quitting heroin cold turkey, then he’ll start having anxiety and panic attacks and show desperation to escape to go get his fix. This is a good sign that he is quitting as one who is using will continue to be in 'relaxed mode' until the withdrawals start coming on. This is where most people give up and throw in the towel. If he seems to be relaxed for most of the time then chances are he’s still using and not quitting (unless of course, he’s actually taking real Suboxone or real Methadone). Nausea and vomiting: If he’s quitting heroin cold turkey, then most likely, he’ll be going back and forth to the bathroom, throwing up for the first day or two. I don’t see how anyone would want to stick their finger down their throat to fake this part of withdrawal. Yet it should also be noted that not everyone throws up when going through heroin withdrawals. It just depends on how many bags he was doing each day and how he was doing them i.e. snorting, smoking, injecting. Most people who inject several bags of heroin each day will go through phases of vomiting for the first few days when quitting heroin cold turkey. Diarrhea: This is one symptom which many can not escape nor fake. If he’s quitting heroin cold turkey then he’ll be taking frequent trips to the bathroom during the first day or two. Anti-diarrhea medicines may help to some degree. Insomnia and restlessness: If he’s quitting heroin cold turkey then he simply won’t be able to sleep for the first few nights without the help of sleeping aids or other lesser evil, pharmaceutical drugs. And even then, he still might not be able to get any sleep for the first few nights. You really can’t fake insomnia. You're either up or down, awake or asleep. If he’s high then he'll fall asleep on day 1, day 2 and day 3. If he continues to go through sleepless nights for the next few nights then that's a good sign that he’s quitting and not using heroin, (unless of course, he’s taking Suboxone or Methadone). He or she may also lose their appetite as most people simply can’t eat during the first few days of withdrawal from heroin. Yet one can force themselves to eat 1 slice of bread with peanut butter and may still be able to hold it down. This can go either way as most heroin addicts hardly eat anything at all. That’s why they’re so skinny, poor in health, and sometimes very weak. Watery eyes: If he's quitting heroin cold turkey then his eyes will be tearing constantly. His eyes will be watering throughout the day for the first few days. He will also go through episodes of crying. Runny nose: He will also have a runny nose as if he had a cold. His nose will be running throughout the day for the first few days. Excessive Yawning: If he's quitting heroin, then he'll also be yawning excessively all day and all night for the first few days. This is something that can’t be stopped. These symptoms are not faked for the most part and therefore exhibiting such symptoms would be a good sign that he is actually quitting heroin cold turkey and not using. Furthermore, daily doses of Nyquil or Benadryl through out the day can reduce such symptoms to a fair degree. Now, if he’s quitting heroin warm turkey with the help of lesser evil pharmaceutical drugs such as Valiums and Vicodins then his withdrawal symptoms may be less painful and less severe. He may be spared from the agony of vomiting, diarrhea, and might even be able to get some sleep. Therefore he may display less or mild signs of heroin withdrawal symptoms when quitting warm turkey.
No matter what, even if he's trying to fool you, then he won’t get by with it for too long. Sooner or later, he will be exposed. You might catch him in the act or find evidence lying around. Eventually, he'll become careless and he will get caught. “You can’t do wrong and get by”. LDA This is why your best chance for helping him will be to get the addict to read my articles on his own, yet without forcing him. Then hopefully he can make a conscious and heart felt decision to quit this thing on his own will. To summarize, if he’s truly quitting heroin cold turkey then he or she will experience: -Ice cold chills -Bone crushing leg pains -Severe muscle cramps -Painful stomach cramps -Nausea and vomiting -Diarrhea -Shaking and tremors -Anxiety and panic attacks -Insomnia and restlessness -Loss of appetite -Watery eyes -Runny nose -Excessive yawning -Extreme depression and crying - crying for heroin. The chances of someone faking any of these symptoms are slim. But again, heroin turns addicts into Hollywood actors. And if they’re not ready to quit then they’ll do whatever it takes to keep the peace within the home and keep on using through the means of deception. Yet, if observing signs of withdrawal becomes a bit too much for you to handle then you can always watch and observe his daily behavior patterns as well. Because if he’s truly quitting heroin then his lifestyle is going to change in one form or another. If he’s trying to quit dope then his daily routine is going to change. He won’t be going out as often as he used to. If he’s not at work, then he’ll be home, for the most part, all of the time. He won’t be telling you detailed lies and stories like he was doing before. He won’t be asking for money any more. His old habits and behavior will disappear, (if he's truly quitting heroin). If he’s truly quitting heroin, then eventually, 'he will come to life' and his appearance and personality will begin to shine - slowly but surely. If he’s truly quitting heroin cold turkey, warm turkey or even with subs, then everything should be changing. And everything will continue to change, slowly but surely. So don't worry. Everything will come to light sooner or later. How to know if he’s still using heroin If he’s still using heroin then he will display the following signs of heroin use: -He’ll be awake one moment and drowsy the next. -He or she may even fall asleep while talking to you. -At times, he’ll have a droopy appearance, with his mouth wide open. -When he’s high, he’ll seem disoriented, dazed, and display poor mental function. -His eyes may appear lost and droopy as if he were in another world. -He will exhibit drowsiness and grogginess on and off through out the day. -At times, his eyes will be closed, and his head will be dropped. -After using, he'll be scratching his head and face often. -If he’s snorting heroin then he'll snort hard to make sure all the dope goes down. -He’ll show little or no motivation to do anything other than getting high. -He’ll talk slow with a slurred speech and in a low toned voice. -His pupils will be constricted when he’s high. -After using, he may feel nausea and possibly vomit. -He may show signs of infections from injecting. -His or her appearance will appear unkept and unmanaged. -He or she will use the same clothing day after day after day. -He'll spend a lot of time in the bathroom throughout the day. -He or she will skip showers and display poor hygiene. -You may find cash and valuable items missing. -He may steal and/or borrow money from anyone and everyone. -You may find drug paraphernalia, aluminum foil, spoons, or syringes. -You may find small pieces of your own house hold aluminum foil missing. These are all signs to look out for. These are all signs which indicate that your loved ones are still using heroin. Some addicts learn how to hide these signs from parents and loved ones, especially when they know that you’re watching and observing them daily. Unfortunately, deception and manipulation becomes first nature for most heroin addicts. And one characteristic which all heroin addicts have in common is lying. If he doesn’t have a job, or spends his pay check on dope, then most likely he’ll be living a life of lies, telling you different stories day after day in order to get more money for dope (heroin). Some common lies and stories used by heroin addicts are as follows: “I need money to pay off my dealer or else he’s gonna to kill me.” I think every heroin addicted son or daughter has used this lie quite a few times, especially after their parents became aware of the fact that their child had a problem with drugs. They’ll come right up and tell you, “I need money, now”. And when you ask them what for, they’ll say; “I have to pay the dope man (dealer) (or someone), or else he’s gonna kill me.” And unfortunately, parents will give into this lie more often than not. That’s why this lie is used over and over again. And if the parents don’t give in on the first or second try then the addict will have one of his or her friends call them on their cell phone right when they’re in front of their parents and have that friend pretend to be the dope man calling and demanding his money or else. The timing will always be perfect. The heroin addict/Hollywood actor will play the role very well and may even shed some tears. He might not even use a friend. He might just make his cell phone ring on its own, pick it up and play the role. The end result is the parent is out anywhere from $20 to $100 or more, and the child has gone out to buy some dope, and not to pay off the dope man. Another common lie used by heroin addicts will be: “I have to pay a court fine or else they're gonna put me in jail.” I think every heroin addict has used this lie many times if they had a source for money and/or no money of their own. They'll add details with various costs, taxes and even produce a convincing invoice printed out on paper. They’ll even have you drop them off right in front of the court house to pay the fine. But once you leave, their off to the dope spot. “I have to pay for this ticket or else they’ll suspend my license and put me in jail.” This is another lie which is used and detailed in the same manner as above. Court fines, probation fees and traffic tickets all fall under the same category of lies: “I need to pay this, or else they're going to put me in jail”. Don’t fall for it. It's a lie. And it’s not your problem anyway. It’s not your responsibility to pay for his mistakes, whether it's true or false. If your partner or child leaves the impression that they do want to quit heroin but are just having a hard time doing so, then they might use any of the following lies repeatedly. “I have to go visit the doctor to see if he can help me. I need $60 cash for the consultation (and he has to go alone)”. If he has medical insurance then he may explain to you that he can’t put that type of doctors visit on his insurance card because his insurance wont cover it. They’ll try to leave the impression that they do want to quit and are doing their part to get professional help, yet at your expense. They'll return home with a 'detailed story' from the doctors visit and assure you that everything will be ok. But what he forgot to mention was that after his supposed doctors visit, he went straight to the dope spot and bought his bags of dope, weed, papers and a pack of cigs. And as long as you keep giving in, then he’ll keep using this lie over and over again. Then, he’ll use the next lie: “I need $40. I have to buy $40 worth of methadone”. He’ll appear sick as if he was dying and then after you’ve given him the $40, he’ll go out and buy his dope bags. And on the way home, he’ll make his own juice with a weird taste and tell you that it’s methadone. You won’t know the difference. Then he’ll use the same lie again, but this time for suboxone instead of methadone. “I need money. I'm sick. I'm trying to quit heroin so I have to buy suboxone tablets”. Then he’ll come home with some type of tablets that you’ve never seen before and swallow them right in front of you in order to have you believe that the money you gave him was spent on suboxone tablets. He may even have you take him to the dope spot to buy the tablets, (although he'll already had them in his pocket). But what he'll buy will be a bag of dope instead. He'll take the tablets out of his pocket and swallow them right in front of you to complete his act of deception. Then once he gets home, he'll do his bag and fade away. He may even buy real suboxone tablets along with the heroin as well. The lies can go on and on and on. He’ll add many details to his stories and even produce computer printed documents for proof. He’ll do anything to add to his credibility. And if it works well, then he’ll use it over and over again with a bit of variation each time. He may even go as far as to sabotage your car by pulling cords, or loosening a spark plug and then tell you not to worry, he’s going to fix your car for you. Then he’ll ask you for the money to buy the parts to get it fixed. And he may go out an actually buy the part and then return it later to get the money back in order to buy his dope bag. He may even have one of his dope friends come over, pretend to be a mechanic and fix the car Hollywood style. Then you’ll have to pay him and they'll both end up getting high on your hard earned money. And if your son or daughter is living in another city or another state then he or she will ask you for money for rent, or else he’s going to be evicted. Children living away from home use this lie all the time. They’ll call you, crying, telling you that if they don’t have the rest of the rent money by tomorrow then they’re going to be evicted and thrown out in the street. Don’t fall for it. It’s a lie! And if it is true then great! The sooner he hits rock bottom then the sooner he can wake up, quit heroin, and turn his life around. Hitting rock bottom may be his only hope left. If he knows that you know that he has a problem with heroin then he’ll ask you to send him money to pay for the methadone clinic, Suboxone clinic, counseling, therapy, medication etc… He’ll have a detailed list of the costs ready for you and he'll need the money, (or part of it), by tomorrow morning. Don’t fall for it. It’s a trap. And it’s all a bunch of lies. He may tell you that his car insurance ran out and that without it he can’t drive his car to work. That’s his problem. And if you start sending him any money for any reason at all then you’ll both lose out and he’ll never learn his lesson. Therefore, if you really want to help your son or daughter then from here on out don’t send them any money for anything no matter what they tell you. There’s no end to the lies and stories that a heroin addict will create and use. They’ll keep wearing you down until you give in. They'll roll play to the very end. They'll steal and pawn all of your jewelry and valuable items. They'll lie, cheat and steal just to get their fix. Don’t give them any more money no matter what they tell you. It doesn’t matter if they come to you crying and begging for help. If there’s money involved then just say no! Don’t give in. Don’t enable him or her in any way, shape or form. So how can you be 100% sure that he or she is not using heroin? Drug test him - random and frequent drug testing. You can pick up a home drug testing kit for heroin and other drugs at your local pharmacy. Since there's a good chance that they'll be using heroin every day then you can catch them on any given day and have them take the drug test right in front of you in the privacy of your own home. Now, even if he still keeps using heroin it doesn’t mean that there isn’t any hope for him. This just means that if you’re going to help someone quit heroin then that someone is going to have to want to quit this thing just as much as you want them to, or else, in the mean time, he might just be deceiving you and setting you up for heart break and disappointment. However, don’t be quick to judge and falsely accuse without knowing for sure if he's using or not. Yet don't be naive, or let your guard down. If he’s still using heroin then eventually he’ll expose himself. He'll become careless and he will get caught. “You can’t do wrong and get by”. LDA But if he's trying to quit, and he's showing signs of withdrawal, then most likely that's exactly what he's doing. He's quitting heroin cold turkey. And if his behavior and daily lifestyle is changing for the better then most likely, he's quitting heroin with the help of suboxone or methadone. And if he’s using suboxone or methadone then his urine will show up negative for opiates with a home drug test kit. So in the mean time, don’t give up. And don't lose hope. Do everything you can to help them quit heroin, stay clean and turn their life around. If you can save just one soul, then your life will have been well spent and the pain and suffering worth every moment. People change. Believe it or not, in time, people can and do change. It’s going to take some time and hard work but people do change. I see it happen all the time. So whatever you do, don’t give up now. Keep pressing on, and keep moving forward. For you might just be their very last hope, in this life, and in the life to come.
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