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How to Help
Your Man Quit Heroin |
If you truly want to save your man
from a life of destruction then the first thing you need to do is take the
time to educate yourself about his
addiction to heroin. Read and learn as much as you can
about
heroin and
heroin addiction.
Read, learn, and
understand the main methods used for quitting heroin.
Read and learn about the withdrawals affiliated with
quitting heroin. NOTE: Hide your
jewelry, purse, checkbook, credit cards and any other
valuable items. Then start planning carefully.
At this point, you have either
some how manage to find out about your partners heroin
addiction on your own or he has come clean to you. If
your boyfriend or husband has already come clean and
has reached out for help then great! You're half way there.
What matters most is how you deal with the situation
from here on out. Whatever you do, don't leave him now.
If he is willing, then you must 'first' do
everything in your power to help him beat this addiction
once and for all.
You can't force your
boyfriend or husband to quit heroin but you CAN persuade
and 'influence' him to not only quit heroin, but to also
turn his life around. With your help
and support, you CAN help him turn his life around and
get him back on track. It's not going to be easy but it
can be done.
Basically you will be helping him
start his life over again from scratch. It's quite
possible that you may have met him while he was already
addicted to heroin yet you were unaware of it at the
time. Or, he may have started this heroin habit while you were
both together.
Either way, in order to really
help him, you'll have to dig deep to find out what
caused him to try heroin in the first place and
make sure those triggers are eliminated for good,
i.e. unfortunate circumstances; bad friends; bad music;
bad TV; boredom; depression; loneliness; hanging out in
the wrong places etc. Whatever the case may be, you'll
have to 'remove the negative' and 'replace it with
positives'.
Out with the old, and in with the new. Help him create
better circumstances; bring in good, decent, moral,
drug-free family members and friends; listen to good, clean,
positive music; watch good clean TV; keep him busy; keep
him happy; stick to him like glue and don't hang out in
the wrong places. Try your best to keep every incoming
stimulus clean and positive.
You are already aware of his heroin problem and how
serious this really is. If you have read my article on
“What is Heroin Addiction”, then you now
understand that he can not just stop using heroin just
like that or else he will become very very sick. It's
not that simple. No one wants to get sick by choice.
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But it goes even further than that. Your man has
a love/hate relationship with heroin. He loves
it. He loves the rush and the high it gives him. He
loves how it makes him feel, inside and out. He looks forward to it each
and every day.
If he doesn't have it, then he'll become very sick and start
vomiting, freezing, shaking, and trembling. He'll feel like
he's about to die. That's why he loves how it heals him
completely within seconds. Yet he hates what it's doing
to his life. And he hates the fact that he can't stop
using heroin just like that. He has to use or else. He is a
slave to heroin.
Bottom line: Your man has another woman
in his life. Her name is heroin, but you
can call her 'Devil Woman'.
SHE is the
enemy. Not your man. So don't hate your man.
Hate her, the other woman - heroin.
And I realize that in the fullest sense, it was
his fault for trying heroin in the first place.
He tried it once and found that it was the best high
he ever had. From there on out he was hooked.
He made a deadly mistake. But what's done is
done. He can't go back in time and undo his
mistakes, but now it has to be dealt with.
If you want your man back then you'll have to do
whatever it takes to remove the other woman
completely out of the relationship.
She's right there in the middle ruining
everything.
She's what's stopping the both of you
from having the best kind of relationship that a man and
a woman can have.
She's holding him back from becoming the best he
can be. She plans to bring him down to nothing.
That is her mission. That is the purpose of
heroin - to destroy lives, marriages and
families.
You're mission, should you decide to
accept, will be to do everything in your power
to save him, win him over and help him turn his
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She wont let him go without a fight. So you will have to
do the same. You will have to fight for him by helping
him quit this nasty habit and remain free once and for
all. But you will have to become much smarter
than her.
Before moving in for the save, you will have to remove
all anger, frustration and resentment. Remove any and
all negative feelings. Otherwise, it wont work.
Prepare yourself by thinking upon thoughts that produce
good feelings about your boyfriend or husband. You will
have to think about the good times and the characteristics
in him that attracted you to him in the first place.
Search deep within you to find every good and positive
memory in order to have
nothing but positive feelings towards that individual.
Spend some time in silence thinking about what you're
going to say to him, which words you are going to use.
'Words' move people. Words backed by
positive emotions inspire people to do the seemingly
impossible - so choose your words wisely.
Then, be on the look out for the perfect time to
speak to him. Don't try to talk to him first
thing in the morning. Most likely he will wake up sick
or in mild withdrawal. At that moment, the only thing on
his mind will be to get his morning fix in order to get
cured and feel normal.
Don't approach him when he's sick. Yet
don't approach him when he's high as
well. Or else, everything you say will go in one ear and
out the other. Try to catch him when he's halfway normal or
at least a
couple of hours after he's had his fix.
Then when the time is right, smile, and ask him, in a
'soft and gentle tone', if he has a
couple of minutes to sit down with you. Have your laptop
nearby or sit near the computer, because in a moment,
you will be leading him to my website where he
will find specific, step-by-step instructions on how to
conquer this beast.
(Side note: Put on a neutral, soft
color shirt or blouse, such as a white or beige shirt as these
colors can help provide a soothing and calming effect
upon your partner. A red shirt may cause him to get up
and walk out.)
At the same time, try to look as pretty as possible, but
not too pretty to make him think he's about to get
lucky. This way you can keep his attention on you
instead of the other woman, heroin, yet without losing
focus on the conversation.
Then sit on his left side so that you can hug
and rub his back with your right hand. Touch
therapy works; especially when administered by a woman
who has a genuine love and concern for the person at
hand. Furthermore, the person administering the touch
must be in a positive state of mind and being before and
during the moment at hand.
Then, using your most softest, most gentle voice
possible, try starting off with a simple
question: “So, how are you doing? how's everything
going”. Then be quiet and listen. |
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If he starts talking then let him talk without any
interruptions. The more he talks then the more he can
open up for further conversation. Hopefully, he will
bring up the subject of heroin on his own.
If you do not have these types of conversations with him often
then he's going to think that something is going on. If
this happens and he starts to become impatient then
proceed to the main topic at hand, which is his
heroin addiction.
Then again, using your most softest, kindest, and most
gentlest voice possible, say something like: “I've been
doing some research on the subject of heroin, heroin
addiction, and how difficult it is for someone to quit
heroin. From what I read, it's almost impossible."
"I have also been reading and learning about what you go
through while going through withdrawals; the vomiting;
the cold chills; the shaking, the diarrhea; the leg
pains; the bone pains; the anxiety attacks; everything,
and it's horrible. I'm starting to understand how you
feel and what you go through and I'm very sorry that you
have to go through all of that.”
Re-assure him that you now have a better
understanding of what he is going through and
why it's so hard for him or anyone to quit this habit.
If he doesn't want to make eye contact then don't make a
big deal about it. In fact, try not to keep eye contact
for too long as this may make him feel uncomfortable
speaking to you.
Then, somewhere in the conversation, you may want to
start asking him questions where you know his answers
are going to be 'yes'. You have to start getting him in
the yes mode all while speaking to him in a calm, soft
and gentle tone.
You can make closing statements such as; “so you really
do want to quit this thing don't you”. He'll say yes.
“You really do want to turn your life around don't you”.
He'll say yes. The 'don't you' part is to close him and
get him to say yes on his own. Yes, yes, yes.
Then put your right hand on his shoulder, look him
right in the eye and say; “I'm going to help you
quit this thing and turn your life around once and for
all”. He may look at you kind of strange and
start wondering how in the world are you going to do
that.
But now he'll begin to feel as though there is
hope just as well. Now he wont feel as if he has
to hide this issue from you any longer because you're no
longer judging him. You are letting him know that you
understand why he has not been able to quit on his own.
Continue with something like, “While I was doing some
research, I found this web site that shows people how to
quit heroin in a step-by-step manner using different
methods for quitting”. At the same time pull up your
laptop, or both of you move up to the computer. Type in
'how to quit heroin' on google.com and my site should
appear at first place. Bring him right to the main
page to where it says 'How to Quit Heroin'. |
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Then say something like, “this guy is an x-heroin addict
and has not touched the stuff for over 16 years.
He must have done something right in his life
to be able to quit heroin and stay clean for good. He
says there are 4 ways to quit heroin”.
Now you've got his attention. You need to keep his
attention by keeping your right hand on him at all
times. Then keep reading to him and show him his options for quitting heroin.
Plan A:
Quitting Heroin Cold Turkey
Plan B:
Quitting Heroin Warm Turkey
with lesser evil opiates i.e. Valiums and Vicodins
Plan C:
Quitting Heroin with Methadone
and/or Suboxone
Plan D:
Quitting Heroin in a Drug
Rehabilitation Facility
Then continue to read the main page to him while making
sure he doesn't fall asleep on you. And when you're done
reading the main page, the main article called “How to
Quit Heroin”, then ask him; “what do you think?, what do
you think is the best way for you to quit? In which
manner would you like to quit this thing?”
Then be quiet and let him speak. Once he shows
you which way HE wants to quit then look him straight in
the eye, shake his hand and say “lets do it”.
Then get started right there and then.
If he chose Plan A then quickly help
him to start reading over my article called
“How to Quit Heroin Cold Turkey” followed
by
“How to Survive the First 7 Days” and then
begin. Help him follow it to the letter.
He must do his best to do 'everything' the articles tell
him to do. (Those who do, succeed.)
Make sure you both read both articles together.
In order for my articles to penetrate his shell, inspire
and motivate him to take action, then he will have to
read my articles himself, 'of his own will', and follow
through to the best of his ability. He will have
to do his part in order for this to work.
You will have to switch rolls from
girlfriend or wife to nurse, to coach, to best friend,
and then back to girlfriend, then to nurse, to
trainer and back to coach again.
If he chose Plan A then you'll have to
help him by preparing his hot baths, taking long fast
walks with him and comfort him when he's throwing up. You'll have to read my article
“How to Survive the First 7 Days” and do it with
him, right by his side.
If he chose Plan B, quitting heroin
with lesser evil opiates such as valiums and vicodins,
then please have him read my article
“How to Quit Heroin with Meds” and then
follow through. You can help him by administering the
meds to him at the appropriate time.
If he chose Plan C, quitting heroin
with Methadone or Suboxone then have him read the lower
section of the same article
“Quitting Heroin with Meds” and
then follow through. Again, you can help him by
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And he chose Plan D,
quitting
heroin in a rehabilitation facilities then
great! Have him call his health insurance company to
find out what his options are and then begin to make
arrangements. If he does not have medical insurance, but
can afford the five digit expense then he can work out a
payment plan with the rehabilitation facilities.
When deciding how to choose a rehabilitation center,
he'll want to read my article
“How
to Quit Heroin in a Drug Rehab Center” which touches on which
characteristics to look for in selecting a drug
rehabilitation center.
Once your partner has chosen his method of quitting then
help him to get started right away. If
all goes well, and if you have been able to maintain a calm mannered conduct then, as scared as he may be,
he may be willing to go ahead as planned seeing this as
an opportunity to end this thing once and for all.
If by chance he becomes uncooperative at any time and
walks out on you then let him go. Don't say a word. Let
him go. If you chase him then he will run. But if you
stay still, remain calm and be quiet then he will come
back.
He will not leave it at that, especially after seeing
how calm, loving and supportive you have been. He will
realize that you may be his only hope and that this
might just be his best chance to quit. It will eat at
him from the inside out.
He'll be back. And when he does come back, welcome him
with open arms and then start all over again with an
even more positive attitude. The more love you show him
then the more submissive he may become. Most women don't
realize this, but a woman can melt a man into submission
with her soft and gentle voice backed by 'love',
compassion and affection. But it has to be genuine.
I do realize and as many people believe, that a heroin
addict will quit when he's good and ready to quit or
when their life has hit rock bottom, or when they're in
danger of losing a loved one. This is only
partially true.
The truth is that no addict is ever ready to
quit. There will never be a perfect time to
quit. You have to help him by making the time to
quit as 'now'. Now is the time to quit this
nasty habit. Now that he has you on his side to help and
support him all the way through.
If he simply doesn't even want to try to quit then step
back and stand down
for 3-4 days. Don't mope around the house nor mistreat
him in any way. But don't act all happy go lucky as if
nothing was wrong. He needs to see that you're truly
hurt from all of this.
Then 3-4 days later, wait for the perfect opportunity and
then start all over again from scratch. Let him know
that you truly want to help him quit this thing and turn
his life around. If he refuses again, then try
again 3-4 days later. And if he refuses again,
then try again 3-4 days later. Wear him
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If he wont do it for himself then beg him to do
it for you. If you have children then beg him to do it
for the children. Begging for the sake of loved ones
works
wonders.
Then give him a chance and see what happens.
How many chances you give him is totally up to you.
However, if he keeps on using heroin, lying to you, and
continually deceives you instead of trying to better the both of your
lives then you may have to step back, reevaluate the
situation and make a difficult choice.
You can not force a man to quit heroin but you
CAN force him to make a decision - you or the other
woman. You or Heroin. Life with you or death with
her.
This is of course to be used as a last resort. And
sometimes, leaving him, or throwing him out may become
his only hope to quit this thing and turn his life
around. It's
either that, or learn how to live in harmony with a
heroin addict and watch him wither away.
But until then,
you'll have to do everything in your power to avoid
getting to that point. You'll have to help him
in everyway that you can before you let go. In the mean
time, you'll have to do your best to show him love,
mercy and compassion while you're still with him so that
he can't use you or your angry behavior as an excuse to
relapse.
Almost every women goes crazy once they find out their
man is doing heroin. They flip, start throwing stuff,
screaming, cursing, yelling, everything. And as a
result, the man takes off to go get another fix just to
calm him down and to help him forget about this whole
mess. Using heroin helps him to escape all of his
problems. So don't give him an excuse to use.
But if, and when that day comes, then simply print
out every page on this website, (except for this one),
hand it to him, nice and neat, give him a hug, a kiss, and a wave good
bye.
In the mean time, you'll have to do whatever it takes to
influence him in a positive manner in order to
inspire and motivate him to take action, stay clean and turn his
life around.
If you want to save your man from that
Devil woman then
you're going to have to do whatever it takes to help him
get clean and stay clean for good. You cant just say,
stay home, quit and that's it. It doesn't work that way.
He's going to need all the help he can get.
Furthermore, that devil women also has a pimp. And his
name is the dope-man, the dealer, or the devil himself.
Erase the dope-mans phone number from your mans cell
phone. You may even have to get his phone number changed
as well. Do whatever it takes to put a stop to this
madness once and for all and make it as
difficult as possible for him to even consider seeing
that devil woman ever again.
Then let him choose
which quitting method he wants to use to quit
heroin and then help and
support him every step of the way. You may also want to
locate the nearest
NA meeting in your
area by visiting the NA website
www.NA.org and start attending meetings
with him as many times as you can, or at least bring him
there.
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If he's gonna quit heroin cold turkey then
you'll have to become his Angel.
And just as angels take on many forms and work
through many ways, you too will have to continually
switch roles through out the day.
You'll
have to become his nurse one
moment, helping him get back and forth to the
bathroom, giving him any medicines, herbal
supplements, water, Gatorade, pills etc.
Then you can help him by filling up the tub for him
with hot hot water and then help drag his weary
bones to the bath tub. You can use this time to
joke around with him and keep
him in a positive mood.
You'll have to switch roles again to
become his exercise trainer.
Here you'll help him get dressed like a little
boy, put on his socks, sneakers and take
him outside for a long fast walk. This
will do him well.
Always be encouraging him, telling him, "c'mon
babe, you can do it...c'mon". Once he starts
walking then he'll begin to feel much better.
Then just keep on walking..
And when you get home, let him know how
proud you are of him for trying so hard
to quit this thing and turn his life around.
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Then, you may want to fill up the tub once again with
hot hot water and give him a sponge bath.
Oh he would love that. And then help him put
some warm clothing on and tuck him back in bed
for a little while. Do everything you can to
distract him from the suffering.
While you're with him, you may want to flip through the channels
on the TV to find something funny to watch or a comedy
sitcom such as "Friends". During this time, you'll want
to laugh as much as possible in order
to pass on that positive energy to him.
You'll also want to rub his back as much as possible
while thinking positive thoughts, hoping he feels better
soon. The main thing is to continue to remain positive
at all times in order to help keep him in a positive
state of mind. Then continue to be his angel
while showing him nothing but love, kindness and
compassion. |
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Always remember to speak to him in your most
softest and most kindest voice possible. Melt his heart
with your soft voice and he will cooperate.
Never argue. Never yell. Angels don't yell.
You're there to help him. And in reality, at this
moment, you are an angel - his angel. And if you don't
help him then who will?
If he's going to quit heroin with prescription
medications such as valiums, vicodins, suboxone or
methadone, then help him by contacting and finding the
right doctor to help him get on a short term low dose
program. Take him or go with him to see the doctor.
Get involved as much as you can.
You can even have him sign a permission paper to allow
the doctor to share his medical information with you.
You'll need to learn his dosage instructions as you will
be the one administering his medications to him.
All you have to do is be there for him. Be his angel.
Help him quit dope, stay clean and turn his life around.
And in doing so, you will save his soul.
Heroin is the hardest thing in the world to quit,
so if he fails then try try again. There is no other
drug like heroin. She wont let him go without a fight. But
if you love this guy that much then he must be worth fighting
for. Therefore, do everything you can to help him.
Worse case scenario:
If you simply can't get through to your man then
send him a text message with my website address:
www.HowtoQuitHeroin.com
That's it. Nothing
more, nothing less. Don't add any other words to the
text message.
And then hopefully, he'll visit my website just out of
curiosity. From there, the rest is up to him. Anything
can happen.
So let's hope for the best.
Whatever you do, don't give up now.
Don't ever give up on the people you love. Don't ever
lose hope. Don't ever stop fighting for the souls of the
ones you love.
And as I tell everyone who tries to saved their loved
ones from this monster called heroin; from here on out,
your most famous words to him will be, “You can do
this... you can do this... be strong... be strong.”
With these words, you will begin to brain wash him each
and every day to the point to where he'll actually
start believing that he really CAN do this. And if he
really wants to, then he will.
It's not going to be easy but it can be done. This
method has worked for many. And like that old song goes,
Stand By Your Man:
www.youtube.com/watch
Now you know what
you gotta do. All you have to do now is prepare
yourself, wait for the perfect opportunity and then move
in for the save. The truth is,
you CAN make a difference... starting now. Good luck. And may the 'Good Force' be with you. |
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