HOW TO HELP YOUR BOYFRIEND OR HUSBAND QUIT HEROIN FOR GOOD

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How to Help Your Man Quit Heroin

If you truly want to save your man from a life of misery and destruction then the first thing you need to do is take the time to educate yourself about his addiction to heroin.

Read and learn as much as you can about heroin and heroin addiction. Read, learn, and understand the main methods used for quitting heroin. Read and learn about the horrible withdrawals associated with quitting heroin. NOTE: Hide your jewelry, purse, checkbook, credit cards and any other valuable items. And from here on out, don't give him any money. Then start planning.

At this point, you’ve either managed to find out about his heroin addiction on your own, or, he came clean to you on his own, or he came clean to you after you confronted him. Either way, now you know that he’s addicted to heroin.

If your boyfriend or husband has already come clean and has reached out for help then great! You're half way there. But if not, then you’re going to have a long hard battle on your hands.

What matters most is how you deal with the situation from here on out. But remember, at this point he's not himself, and he's not able to think rationally. So whatever you do, don't leave him now,… not yet.

And if he’s willing, then you must 'first' do everything in your power to help him beat this drug addiction once and for all.

You can't force him to quit heroin, but you can persuade and 'influence' him to not only quit heroin, but to also try to turn his life around.

With your help and support, you can help him turn his life around and get him back on track. It's not going to be easy but it can be done. Basically, you’ll be helping him to start his life all over again from scratch.

It's quite possible that you met him while he was already addicted to heroin yet you were unaware of it at the time.

Or, he may have started using heroin while you were both together. Either way what's done is done. He's hooked on dope for good,... unless you're able to help him break free.

And in order to really help him, you'll have to dig deep to find out what caused him to try heroin in the first place and make sure those triggers are eliminated for good, i.e. unfortunate circumstances; bad friends; bad music; bad TV; boredom; depression; loneliness; hanging out in the wrong places with the wrong people etc.

Whatever the case may be, you'll have to 'remove the negatives' and 'replace them with positives'.

Out with the old, and in with the new. You’re going to have to help him create a better life for himself by creating better circumstances; i.e. bring in good, decent, drug-free family members and friends; listen to good, clean, positive music; watch good clean TV; keep him busy; keep him happy; stick to him like glue and don't hang out in the wrong places. Try your best to keep every incoming stimulus clean, fun, and positive.

You’re already aware of his heroin addiction and how serious it really is. If you've read my article on “What is Heroin Addiction”, then you now understand why he can’t just stop using heroin just like that or else he’ll become very very sick. It's not that simple. No one wants to get sick by choice.

But it goes even further than that. It’s not just a physical addiction; it’s a mental and emotional addiction as well. His mind has become programmed to seek and use heroin every single day.

Your man has a love/hate relationship with heroin. He loves it. He loves the rush and the high he gets from it. He loves how it makes him feel, inside and out. He looks forward to it each and every day. And as crazy as it sounds, some users even love the ritual of sticking that needle into their veins.

But if he doesn't have his fix, then he'll become very sick and start vomiting, freezing, shaking, and trembling. He'll feel like he's about to die. That's why he loves how it heals him completely within seconds. Yet most likely, he hates what it's doing to his life. And he hates the fact that he can't stop using heroin just like that. He has to use or else he’ll become very very ill. He has to use in order to get cured and feel normal. So unfortunately, he’s a slave to heroin.

Bottom line: Your man has another woman in his life. Her name is heroin, but you can call her 'Devil Woman'. SHE is the enemy. Not your man. So don't hate your man. Hate her, the other woman - heroin. And instead of getting mad and bitter, try to get yourself to feel sorry for him.

I realize that in the fullest sense, it was his fault for trying heroin in the first place. He tried it once and found that it was the best high he ever had. From there on out he was hooked.

He made a deadly mistake. But what's done is done. He can't go back and undo his mistakes, but now it has to be dealt with.

If you want your man back then you'll have to do whatever it takes to remove the other woman completely out of the relationship, even if it means separating yourself from him for a very long time.

But for now, she's right there in the middle, ruining everything.

Heroin is what's stopping the both of you from having the best kind of relationship that a man and a woman can ever have – an honest relationship.

She's holding him back from becoming the best man that he can be. And she plans to bring him down to a peace of bread.

That is her mission. That is the purpose of heroin - to destroy lives and marriages and to tear families apart.

You're mission, should you decide to accept, will be to do everything in your power to save him, win him over and help him turn his life around once and for all.

But she won’t let him go without a fight. So you will have to do the same. If you still want your man then you'll have to fight for him by helping him to quit this nasty heroin habit and remain drug free from here on out.

But before going in for the save, you’ll have to remove all anger, frustration and resentment. Put away all negative feelings. Otherwise, it won’t work.

You'll have to prepare yourself by thinking upon thoughts that produce good feelings about him. You’ll have to think about the good times you had together and the characteristics that attracted you to him in the first place. Search deep within your heart to find every good and positive memory in order to have nothing but positive feelings towards the your man.

Spend some time in silence thinking about what you're going to say to him, and what words you’re going to use. 'Words' move people. Words backed by positive emotions inspire and motivate people to do the seemingly impossible, so choose your words wisely.

Then, be on the look out for the perfect time to speak to him. Don't try to talk to him first thing in the morning as most likely he’ll wake up sick or in mild withdrawal. At that point, the only thing on his mind will be to get up and go get his morning fix in order to get cured and feel normal.

Don't approach him when he's sick. Yet don't approach him when he's high as well. Or else, everything you say to him will go in one ear and out the other. Try to catch him when he's halfway normal or at least a couple of hours after he's had his last fix.

Then when the time is right, put on a gentle smile, and ask him, in a 'soft and gentle tone', if he has a couple of minutes to sit down and talk with you. Have your laptop nearby or sit next to the computer, because in a moment, you will be leading him to my website where he will find specific, step-by-step instructions on how to quit heroin, stay clean and turn his life around.

(Note: You may want to put on a neutral, soft color shirt, such as a white or beige shirt as these colors can help provide a soothing and calming effect upon your partner. A red shirt may cause him to get up and walk out. You can even put on one of his shirts to demonstrate your closeness to him.)

At the same time, try to look a little pretty in order to keep his attention on you instead of the other woman, heroin, yet without losing focus on the conversation at hand.

Then sit on his left side so that you can hug and rub his back with your right hand while you speak to him.

Touch therapy works; especially when administered by a woman who has a genuine love and concern for the person at hand.

However, the person administering the touch must be healthy and in a positive state of mind before and during the moment of touching in order to emit positive energy.

Then, using your most softest, and most gentlest voice possible, try starting off with a simple question: “So, how are you doing? How's everything going”. Then be quiet and listen.

If he starts talking then let him talk without any interruptions. The more he talks then the more he can open up for further conversation. Hopefully, he'll bring up the subject of heroin on his own.

If you do not have these types of conversations with him often then he's going to think that something's going on. And if he starts to become impatient then proceed to the main topic at hand, which is his heroin addiction.

Then again, using your most softest, most kindest, and most gentlest voice possible, say something like: “I've been doing some research on the subject of heroin, heroin addiction, and how difficult it is for people to quit heroin. From what I read, it's almost impossible."

"I've also been reading and learning about what you have to go through while going through withdrawals; the vomiting; the cold chills; the shaking, the diarrhea; the leg pains; the bone pains; the anxiety attacks; everything, and it's horrible. I'm starting to understand how you feel and what you go through and I'm very sorry that you have to go through all of that.”

Re-assure him that you now have a better understanding of what he's going through and why it's so hard for him or anyone to quit this habit.

If he doesn't want to make eye contact with you then don't make a big deal about it. In fact, try not to keep eye contact for too long as this may make him feel uncomfortable when speaking to you.

Then, somewhere in the conversation, you may want to start asking him questions where you know his answers are going to be 'yes'. You have to start getting him in the yes mode all while speaking to him in a calm, soft and gentle manner.

You can make closing statements such as; “so you really do want to quit this thing don't you”. Hopefully, he'll say yes. “You really do want to turn your life around don't you.” He'll say yes. The 'don't you' part is to close him and get him to say yes on his own. Yes, yes, yes.

Then put your right hand on his back and tell him; “I'm going to help you quit this thing and turn your life around once and for all, if you let me help you”. He may look at you kind of strange and start wondering how in the world are you going to do that. Or, he may be thinking, "I don't want to quit".

But either way, he might also begin to feel as if there is hope after all. Now he won’t feel as if he has to hide this issue from you any longer because you're not judging him any more, (if you said everything with a loving and caring attitude). You’re letting him know that you understand why he has not been able to quit and that you are willing to help him if he truly wants to quit.

Continue with something like, “While I was searching for answers, I found this web site that shows people how to quit heroin in a step-by-step manner by using different methods for quitting”. At the same time pull up your laptop, or both of you can move up to the computer together. Open your browser and type in 'how to quit heroin' on google.com and my site should appear on the first page or go straight to HowtoQuitHeroin.com . Bring him right to the main page to where it says 'How to Quit Heroin'.

Then say something like, “this guy is an x-heroin addict and has not touched heroin for over 18 years. He must have done something right in his life to be able to quit heroin and stay clean for good. He says there are basically 4 ways to quit heroin”.

Now that you have his attention, keep reading to him and show him his options for quitting heroin.

Plan A: Quitting Heroin Cold Turkey
Plan B: Quitting Heroin Warm Turkey with lesser evil pharmaceuticals
Plan C: Quitting Heroin with Methadone and/or Suboxone
Plan D: Quitting Heroin in a Drug Rehabilitation Center

Then continue to read the main page to him while making sure he doesn't fall asleep on you. And when you're done reading the main page, the main article called “How to Quit Heroin”, then ask him; “what do you think? What do you think is the best way for you to quit? In which manner would you like to quit this thing?”

Then be quiet and let him speak. Once he shows you which way HE wants to quit then say “ok, lets do it”. Then get started right there and then. Start planning and start doing.

If he chose Plan A then quickly help him to start reading over my article called “How to Quit Heroin Cold Turkey” followed by, “How to Survive the First 7 Days” and then begin. Help him follow it to the letter. Help him to do 'everything' the articles tell him to do. (Those who do, succeed.) Make sure you both read both articles so that you’ll both be on the same page, sort of speak.

In order for my articles to penetrate his shell, inspire and motivate him to take action, then he will have to read my articles himself, 'on his own will', and follow through to the best of his ability. He will have to do his part in order for any of this to work. He has to want to quit, once and for all.

And while helping him, you'll have to switch rolls from girlfriend or wife to nurse, to coach, to best friend, and then back to girlfriend, then to nurse, to trainer and back to partner again.

If he chose Plan A, quitting heroin cold turkey, then you can help him by preparing his hot baths, taking long fast walks with him and comfort him when he's throwing up. You'll have to read my article “How to Survive the First 7 Days” and do it with him, right by his side if you really want to help him.

If he chose Plan B, quitting heroin warm turkey with lesser evil pharmaceutical drugs, then please have him read my article “How to Quit Heroin with Meds” and then help him to follow through. You can help him by taking him to the doctor or clinic and then administering the meds to him at the appropriate time.

If he chose Plan C, quitting heroin with Methadone or Suboxone then have him read the lower section of the same article “Quitting Heroin with Meds” and then help him to follow through.

And if he chose Plan D, quitting heroin in a drug rehabilitation center then great! Have him call his health insurance company to find out what his options are and then begin to make arrangements. If he doesn’t have medical insurance, but can afford the costs and fees associated with treatment centers then he can work out a payment plan with the center themselves.

When deciding how to choose a rehabilitation center, he'll want to read my article “How to Quit Heroin in a Drug Rehabilitation Center” which touches on which characteristics to look for when selecting the right drug rehabilitation center to go to.

Once your partner has chosen his preferred method for quitting then help him to get started right away. Try to keep the momentum going. If all goes well, and if you were able to maintain a calm and loving attitude then, as scared as he may be, he may be willing to go ahead as planned seeing this as an opportunity to end this thing once and for all.

But if by chance he becomes uncooperative at any time and walks out on you then let him go. Don't say a word. Just let him go. If you chase then he will run. But if you stay still, remain calm and be quiet then chances are he will come back. And if he lives with you then he has to come back.

The nicer you are to him, then the more motivated he may become to quit. The kinder you are to him (in spite of the hurt he has caused you), then the more he'll begin to hate himself for hurting you and may try his best to quit, even if it's just for you. And there's nothing wrong with that. Not many people are willing to change for themselves, but many users will change for their loved ones, especially when the relationship is at stake. The more love you show him then the more submissive and cooperative he may become. And if he becomes a jerk then you must remain calm, kind, and loving.

Most women don't realize this, but a woman has the power to melt a man into submission with her soft, kind and gentle voice backed by genuine 'love', compassion and affection. But it has to be genuine. No yelling, no screaming, no cursing, no swearing. Be kind and loving, always.

I do realize and as many experts believe, that a heroin addict will quit when he's good and ready to quit, or when something major or drastic takes place in their life, or their life has hit rock bottom, or when they're in danger of losing a loved one. This is only partially true.

The truth is that no addict is ever ready to quit. There will never be a perfect time to quit. You can help him by making ‘now’ the time to quit. Now is the time to quit this nasty habit. Now that he has you on his side to help and support him all the way through.

However, if he simply doesn't even want to try to quit then step back and stand down for 2-3 days. Don't mope around the house nor mistreat him in any way. And don't raise your voice to him either. But don't act all happy go lucky as if nothing was wrong. He needs to see that you're truly hurt by all of this.

Then 2-3 days later, wait for the perfect opportunity and then start all over again from scratch. Let him know that you truly want to help him quit this thing and turn his life around. If he refuses again, then try again 2-3 days later. And if he refuses again, then try again 2-3 days later. Wear him down in a soft and gentle manner.

And if he won’t do it for himself then beg him to do it for you. If you have children then beg him to do it for your children. Begging for the sake of loved ones can work wonders.

Then give him a chance to see what he does. How many chances you give him is totally up to you. However, if he keeps on using heroin, if he keeps on lying to you, and continually deceives you instead of trying to better the both of your lives then you may have to step back, re-evaluate the situation and make a difficult choice.

You can not force a man to quit heroin but you CAN force him to make a decision - you or the other woman - heroin. You and your children or heroin. Life with you or death with her. "It's one or the other, but you can have both". It's either that, or get used to living with a heroin addict.

This is called "complete detachment" or what some may refer to as tough love.

If you’ve given him his fair share of chances and it looks like he’s simply not going to quit, then you may have to tell him; “I love you, and I really hope you’ll quit using heroin. I’m willing to do whatever I can to help you quit this thing, stay clean, and turn your life around. But you need to decide which relationship is more important to you. Is it your relationship with heroin? Or is it your relationship with me? But until then you can’t have both. It’s either heroin or me.”

If he chooses you, the family, then great! Help him!

But if after several chances he keeps choosing heroin then leave him or send him on his way.

Wait till he leaves to go get high and then while he’s gone, start packing all his stuff. Print out every page on this website, (except for this one) and pack it with his belongings and set it outside or in his car. (Just make sure no one steels his stuff) Then you can tell him face to face or leave him a note telling him that until he’s been clean for 40 days and 40 nights then you'll have nothing to do with him.

Or, if it is you who is going to leave him then pack your stuff and leave to your mothers, relatives, or friends home. Leave him a note telling him that you want a better life without drugs in the picture and until he's ready to give you that life then it's over for now.

You can also write or add to your note: "If you want me back in your life, then contact Jorge (George) Fernandez at jorge@HowtoQuitHeroin.com He'll tell you exactly what you need to do to have me back in your life once again. But until then, we can't be together..."

And if he does contact me then I promise you, I'll do whatever I can to help him quit this thing, stay clean and win you back into his life.

“Complete detachment” may seem harsh, and it is, but it just might be his only hope, and you just might very well save his life.

“Complete detachment” or what they call tough love is to be used as a last resort as this may be his only hope to quit this thing and turn his life around. It's either that, or learn how to live in harmony with a heroin addict and watch him wither away day by day until he dies.

And if you have children in the house, then you have to decide if it's safe to have a heroin addict along with his needles to be around your children. He will associate himself with drug dealers and drug users during the day and then come home to you and your children at night. Is this what you want?

If not, then “complete detachment” may be his only hope left. And after he sees how miserable his life is without you then maybe, just maybe, he may wake up sooner than you think.

But until then, you'll have to do everything in your power to avoid getting to that point. You'll have to help him in every way that you can before you leave him or send him on his way. And in the mean time, you'll have to do your best to show him love, mercy and compassion while you're still with him so that he can't use you or your angry behavior as an excuse to relapse over and over again.

Almost every women goes crazy once they find out their man is using and keeps using heroin. They flip, start throwing stuff, screaming, cursing, yelling, everything. And as a result, the man takes off to go get another fix just to calm down and to help him forget about the whole situation. Using heroin helps him to escape all of his problems, at least for the moment. So don't give him an excuse to use.

Instead, try to bring yourself to feel sorry for him and do whatever it takes to influence him in a positive manner in order to inspire and motivate him to take action, stay clean and turn his life around.

If you want to save your man from that Devil woman then you're going to have to do whatever it takes to help him get clean and stay clean for good. You can’t just say, stay home, be clean and that's it. It doesn't work that way. He's going to need all the help he can get.

Furthermore, that devil women also has a pimp. And his name is the dope-man, the dealer, or the devil himself. Erase his dealers' phone number from his cell phone. You may even have to get his phone number changed as well. Do whatever it takes to put a stop to this madness once and for all and make it as difficult as possible for him to even consider seeing heroin ever again.

Then let him choose how he wants to quit heroin and then help and support him every step of the way. You may also want to locate the nearest NA meeting in your area by visiting the NA website www.NA.org and start attending meetings with him, or at least bring him there.

And in the mean time, if he's going to quit heroin cold turkey then you'll have to become his Angel. And just as angels take on many forms and work in many ways, you too will have to continually switch roles through out the day.

You'll have to become his nurse one moment, helping him get back and forth to the bathroom, giving him his medicines, herbal supplements, water, Gatorade, pills etc.

Then you can help him by filling up the tub for him with hot hot water and then help drag his weary bones to the bath tub. You can use this time to joke around with him and keep him in a positive mood.

You'll have to switch roles again to become his exercise trainer where you'll help him to get dressed like a little boy, put his socks and sneakers on, and take him out for a long fast walk. A long fast walk will do him well.

Always be encouraging him, telling him, "c'mon babe, you can do this...". Once he starts walking then he'll begin to feel much much better. Then just keep on walking..

And when you get home, let him know how proud you are of him for trying so hard to quit this thing and turn his life around. And then keep reading the testimonies to him.

Then fill up the tub once again with hot hot water and give him a sponge bath. And then help him put on some warm clothing and tuck him back in bed for a little while. Do everything you can to distract him from the pain and suffering.

And while you're with him, you may want to flip through the channels on the TV to find something funny to watch or a comedy sitcom such as Friends, My Name is Earl, etc... During this time, you'll want to laugh as much as possible in order to pass on that positive energy to him.

You'll also want to rub his back as much as possible while thinking positive thoughts, hoping he feels better soon. The main thing is to continue to remain positive at all times in order to help keep him in a positive state of mind. Then continue to be his angel while showing him nothing but love, kindness and compassion.

And always remember to speak to him in your most softest and most kindest voice possible. Melt him with your soft voice and he will cooperate.

Never argue. Never yell. Angels don't yell. You're there to help him. And in reality, at this moment, you are an angel - his angel. And if you don't help him then who will?

If he's going to quit heroin with prescription medications such as valiums, vicodins, suboxone or methadone, then help him by contacting and finding the right doctor to help him get on a short-term, low-dose medication program. Take him or go with him to go see the doctor.

Get involved as much as you can. You can even have him sign a release form to allow the doctor to share his medical information with you. You'll need to learn his dosage instructions as most likely you will be the one administering his medications to him.

And to make sure that all is going well, then you can drug test him every so often to make sure he's not using heroin. You can pick up a multi-panel, home drug testing kit at your local pharmacy and then have him pee in the cup right in front of you. Heroin remains in the body for 3 to 4 days. So if it comes out positive for opiates then that means he's using. But if it comes out negative then reward him.

All you have to do is be there for him. Be his angel. Help him quit dope, stay clean and turn his life around. And in doing so, you will save his soul.

Heroin is the hardest drug in the world to quit. So if he fails then try try again. There is no other drug like heroin. And she won’t let him go without a fight. But if you love this guy that much then he must be worth fighting for. Therefore, do everything you can to help him.

Worse case scenario: If you simply can't get through to your man then send him a text message with my website address: www.HowtoQuitHeroin.com

That's it. Nothing more, nothing less. Don't add any other words to the text message. And then hopefully, he'll visit my website just out of curiosity. From there, the rest is up to him. Anything can happen. So let's hope for the best.

And if you think that men don't change then think again.

NEW UPDATE: "Hi Jorge, Its been a while since we last emailed you, so thought I would give you an update on how i'm getting on. which is good!! Thanks to you and your messages you sent me and also your web page. I have not touched any thing since 20th may (2010), and feel much better, it still cross's my mind on a regular basis but i'm using mental wealth to beat the demons. i hope i can carry on this way for the rest of my existence. i'm trying to help friends that are in the same situation that i was which helps me forward rather than backwards as i thought it might. i find it quite rewarding, as i'm sure you can relate to. Thank you for all your help and support,... i have been keeping busy with work and starting up a new business venture which is going well. thank you for your help in my time of need it is more appreciated than you know. thanks again..." SP (male)

NEW UPDATE: "hi jorge its the girlfriend! :) " " is doing great i'm so so proud of him, he has turned his life around very quickly, started a new business and he looks amazing, he is the man i fell in love with again, its like having a new boyfriend without having to get rid of the old one!! his clean friends are about more for him now they know he is clean which is really positive for him, he goes out with clean friends and he is fun, out going and much more loving now his life isn't the dark solemn place it was 6 months ago. we do talk about how he feels often and he has thought about doing it, but not done it, once again i'm proud of him for this, he is very honest with me(which i'm glad about as it wouldn't work otherwise),i don't think he would be here where he is now if it wasn't for your messages of support and the website provided so much information, it made such a difference having first hand info rather than someone saying "do this, do that" when they actually have no understanding of what its really like to go though. this is where i found it helpful too, as i was very unsure of what to expect. so my thanks go to you too, i cant express my thanks enough!.." J (girlfriend of SP:)

People change. So whatever you do, don't give up now. Don't ever give up on the people you love. And don't ever lose hope. Don't ever stop fighting for the souls of the ones you love the most.

And as I tell everyone who tries to saved their loved ones from this monster called heroin; from here on out, your most famous words to him will be, “You can do this... be strong.”

With these words, you will begin to brain wash him each and every day to the point to where he may actually start believing that he really can do this. And if he really wants to, then he will. He will quit heroin, stay clean, and turn his life around.

It's not going to be easy but it can be done. And believe it or not, this approach has worked for many. And like that old song says, Stand By Your Man: www.youtube.com/watch

Now you know what you have to do. And all you have to do now is prepare yourself, wait for the perfect opportunity and then move in for the save. Because the truth is, you CAN make a difference... starting now. Good luck. And may the 'Good Force' be with you.

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