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How to Help
your Son/Daughter Quit Heroin |
If your child lives with you, then
the first thing you need to do is hide all of your
jewelry, your purse, your checkbook, your credit cards
and any other valuable and sellable items. Then take the time to
read and learn as much as you can
about heroin and
heroin addiction.
Read and learn about the different methods used for
quitting heroin. Learn about the
withdrawals, pain, agony and everything else
that pertains to quitting heroin. Then start
planning. If your son or daughter has already
reached out for help then great! You're half way there.
But if not, then you're going to have to plan and
perform a divine intervention, an intervention for the
life of your child.
You can not force your son or daughter to quit heroin but
you CAN persuade and 'influence' your child to
not only quit heroin, but to also turn their life around
for good. With your help and guidance,
you CAN start leading them on 'the right path'.
Both of you will be starting your lives all over again
from scratch. You may want to start by identifying the
root(s) and the cause(s) of the problem. i.e. improper
or loose child raising, bad upbringing, past negative
incidents, bad friends, bad music, boredom, loneliness
etc.
Start thinking about all of the negative elements which
could have contributed to driving your child to start trying
and doing drugs in the first place. Then begin to create
and write down a
step-by-step plan to wipe out and permanently
eliminate all of these negative elements to the
best of your ability.
For example: If part of the problem was due to improper or
loose child raising then start all over again and start
raising your child from scratch no matter how old he or
she is. Start raising your son or daughter from
scratch in a whole new manner. The correct way.
Become more strict, more stern, yet more loving and more
concerned for your son or daughter. Become more
concerned about 'raising' and 'influencing' your
child properly. Start showing your child more love,
affection and compassion. Yet, set new rules and
guidelines.
As long as your child is living under your roof then you
have more control over how that child's life turns out
than what you might think. Start doing everything in
your power to learn proper child raising principles no
matter how old your child is. Begin to retrain and
influence your child in a correct and proper manner and
in time he just might conform.
Negative or tragic events, issues and incidents that
have taken place in the child's life will have to be
dealt with before they can be permanently left in the past.
Bad friends will have to be removed immediately
and permanently from your child's life. Replace
those bad friends with drug-free, decent and
moral family members and friends. |
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Your son or daughter will have to
be surrounded by caring and loving family members and friends
who truly do have a genuine concern for your child's
recovery.
If you have a son, then you'll want to involve older,
drug-free, trusted male figures who can set a good
example before you son. If you have a daughter then
you'll want to involve older decent and moral female figures to
take on the big sister role. Try to keep it in
the family.
And since music has such a powerful effect on a child's
behavior, attitudes, feelings,
emotions, temper, actions
and thoughts, then bad music will have to be
removed and replaced with good music in order to see a
change in your child's behavior.
A change in music is a must. Words can
not express how important this one key element really
is.
Music is much like a drug in itself which hardly anyone can live
without. And I can assure you, that the music
has such a stronghold on your child that it's
just as strong as, if not stronger than any other drug.
Today's music is the worst thing that has ever happened
to our children. Omit this one strategy and I
seriously doubt that your child will make it and stay
clean for good. He may get clean for a little
while, but he will continue to live a series of ups and downs. Remove the bad music and you'll
remove the poison.
Music changes people. Therefore, change the music and
you'll change the person. Today's most popular
music was created and purposely designed to be used as a
tool for character formation, unfortunately, of the
worst kind.
Most people, especially our younger generation today,
follow their idols blindly, and in time become, or try
to become just like them, by imitating how they talk,
how they walk, how they act, how they dress, how they
live, how they sing, and everything that pertains to
them including using the same drugs they use. Thus, character formation of the worse kind.
We are what we eat. If you eat junk food, then you
become walking junk. Junk in- junk out. We are what we
watch. If you watch porn all day, then eventually,
you'll become a pervert /sex addict. In the same sense,
we are what we listen to the most.
“Thus, what you listen to literally forms what
you become”, LDA.
Rap, hip hop, R&B, reggaeton, rock, classic rock, metal,
techno and alternative are the worst kinds of music you
and your child could listen to due to the filthy, violent and perverted lyrics; the distorted and
dark sound; the hypnotic, pounding, negative beats; the
fowl and corrupt singers; the evil millionaires behind
the record companies with their hidden agenda;
and the negative energy and influence being put forth
from the music. Take a good look at our generation today. This is the end results.
They are a product of the music. |
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Oldies, 50's, 60's, Elvis, and classic country
music are the best and safest types of music to listen
to due to the clean lyrics; the natural and
clean sound; the soft beat; and for the most part, the
better raised singers; the better raised people behind
the music and the more positive energy and influence put
forth from the music without the hidden agenda.
Good music helps. Read what these x-heroin
addicts had to say about music:
"you are so right man, music does effects you, a lot
whenever i hear rock/metal, i remember my old days."
BB (male)
UPDATE:"neither heroin nor weed, just
sum cigarettes, that too, once in a month or so, liftin
weights keep me sane, most of it... thanx man, i will
never forget you, ever. nowadays m listening to elvis
presley, frank sinatra, pavarotti etc. i listened to sum
country stuf" BB (male)
"Thanks Jorge, for this really great info. I've been on
a lot of addiction drug boards, and never knew some of
the stuff you have written back to me. Currently, I
almost feel like I can stand on 2 feet, and I have taken
your advice about the valerian root. It helps a lot with
the calming. And the music, i
managed to actually make a few CD's and made it through
work today. I'll get those movies you
recommended, I used to love to watch movies before this,
and funny movies. Thanks again, great website and
info...!!! JJ (male)
UPDATE: "Really like the music
bit in your essay. That did work for me, listening to
good music." JJ (male)
"I'm on my 8 night... I really enjoyed your website
you need to let the people know that music
really helps!!!!!" TC (male)
"This music is so crazy awesome!!!!! The power
of music is so amazing!!!! Fly high to the sky"
A (female)
"we are now dec 27th with out any issues. again I think
we are getting there, for the parents out there that
want to give up don't. each time we took him a little
longer in days till I now think we have done it. We have
used your program as are guide and didnt give up. Guided
him to find new friends, music.
thank you for putting this site up !!! We have done this
with out any meds of any kind so it can be done. I will
keep you posted. Thanks again." JJ (father
helping son)
Music works. The right type of music
performed by the right type of people can make a huge
difference in your child's recovery. (TIP: It even helps
to have the 'good music' playing in the background at
home or in the car. You may even have to sneak the 'new
music' in carefully.) A good parent leads by example. It
is your home and you have the right to ban any and all bad music
from being played within your home. These are not
extreme measures by any means. It's just good common
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Bad music will draw in
negative influence and negative energy into your home.
Continuous playing of good music will create a positive
influence and positive energy all around. It's your
home. Put your foot down and take control.
Regarding boredom and loneliness:
You'll have to plan on doing everything you can to
eliminate the boredom and loneliness which your son or
daughter will go through while detoxing and during recovery as
well. It is a dangerous place to be for your child.
You'll have to start planning fun and productive
activities to do with your child on a continual
bases. If possible, try to start involving drug-free, decent,
moral family members and friends to help you in keeping
your child busy.
For example: joining a gym with your
son or daughter and starting your days with daily exercise routines
followed by some form of cardio, such as walking fast,
jogging, running or biking, taking long walks in the
park, walking through beautiful and natural scenic
views.
Go hiking, site seeing; rock wall climbing; walks in the
mall; shopping for even one item, a piece of clothing or
an Elvis CD; bike riding; going to the park just to hang
out and talk; visiting to the zoo; watching inspirational
movies at home; bowling; go kart racing; horse back
riding; skating; and any other fun activities and events
that you can think of.
Plan wisely and try do as many fun activities as you can to
keep your child's mind busy and off of heroin and on the
activities and the moment at hand. Always keep
it clean, fun and active in order to keep your
child in a positive state of mind. This will help him
greatly, not only now, but during recovery, and for the
many months ahead.
If you're truly determined and dedicated to saving your child's life,
then plan on being in this battle for the long
haul; 8-12 months or more.
You'll have to combat your child's feelings of
loneliness by always surrounding him with drug-free,
clean, moral and decent family members and friends. Try to involve as
many people as you can in your child's recovery, even
new people who you know for sure are drug-free, decent,
moral people who can become a positive influence
in your child's life.
For it is in those moments of boredom and loneliness
where he or she will start to think about doing heroin.
You child will start thinking and dwelling on the
thoughts of how good they used to feel from that heroin
rush. And if they stay thinking about it long enough
then just like a thief in the night, they will escape and
go use.
To avoid any possible encounters of relapse, you will have to
write down your master rescue plan on paper and stick
with it every step of the way. If you think
that some, or none of the above is necessary, then think
again. If you think that its just a matter of helping
your child get clean and stay clean for a
month or two and then let them go out into the world and all
will be fine, then you've gotta another thing coming.
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They say that true recovery begins
after the user has abstained from heroin
for 1 year. This
process takes time. It takes time to undo the damage
that's been done and
start life all over again. It takes time to
retrain ones mind and body to live without heroin.
Your child will be most vulnerable during the first 3 to 6
months but will still need guidance and care
for the rest of the year. But if you want to save your
child's life then be prepared for a long hard battle,
and be prepared to win.
Heroin addiction is the absolute worst drug
addiction in the world, destroying the will of
man, thus the old saying, “Nobody quits heroin...
nobody”... But the truth is, few there be that
quit heroin. Your son or daughter can become
one of the few who quit heroin and stay clean for good.
You can help make that dream a reality.
Once you have identified the root(s) of the problem(s) and
have written down the solutions and the means of the
solution then prepare yourself to go in for the
save.
Again, if your son or daughter has already reached out
to you for help then great! Phase 1 complete. If not,
then you will have to perform a carefully
planned divine intervention.
Even if you have already talked to them about it to a
certain degree and have been trying to deal with the
problem to no avail, then it's time to step back and
take 'a new approach.' But
first, you must prepare yourself.
Before speaking to your child about quitting heroin, for
the 1st, 2nd or 3rd time, it would be best to
spend 30 minutes or more in silence, preparing yourself,
meditating and thinking of what 'words'
you will use to 'inspire', motivate and encourage your
child to take action and allow you to help him quit
heroin and stay clean for good.
And although everything might not go as planned, you'll
come pretty close if you are well prepared. (Side
note: Put on a neutral, soft color shirt, such
as a white or beige shirt as these colors can help
provide a soothing and calming effect upon your child. A
red shirt may cause your child to get up and walk out.)
Make sure that you're 100% completely calm.
Remove all resentment, frustration and anger.
Think on thoughts of when your son or daughter was just
7, 10, and 12 years old. Think of how they used to be
before this heroin addiction took over, and hold on to
those thoughts and feelings. That is the child whom you are going to
save and bring back to life.
To get the most positive response from your son or
daughter, you will have to plan on a time where the both
of you can talk in private without any interruptions
whatsoever.
You will also have to try your best to catch your child at the
perfect time, when he or she is neither sick
from withdrawals, nor high from the heroin.
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For example; first thing in the morning may
be the wrong time to talk to your child if they
have not had their fix. He or she will be sick from the
withdrawals and the only thing on their mind at that
moment will be to get up, get out and get that first fix
of the day just to feel normal.
Likewise, it wont do you much good to sit and talk with
your child when he or she is high and sedated. He might
start nodding and fall asleep right in front of you.
You'll have to watch for the signs and get them
at the right moment, possibly 1 to 2 hours
after their first morning, afternoon, or last fix of the
day.
Making an appointment with them may or may not work.
They might get scared and not show up at all. For the
most part, you should already be aware of your child's
behavioral patterns and daily routines. You may even want
to ask them before hand if their feeling ok, enough to
talk for just a couple of minutes. Just ask your child,
"you got a minute?"
Then when the time is right, move in for the
save,... the saving of your child's
life. Have your laptop nearby or be sitting
close to where your computer is because in a few
moments, your going to lead your child to my website.
If you will both be moving to the computer then make
sure it's nearby and that there are already 2 chairs
there in place. You will want to proceed as quickly as
possible without
any inconvenience. (You can also print out my articles
beforehand. But if your child manages to contact me from
my site then you'll now have one more person to help
him.)
Sit on your child's left side so that you can
rub their backs with your right hand. Touch
therapy works; especially when administered by a loved
one who has a genuine love and concern for the person at
hand. The person administering the touch
must in a positive state of mind and being.
Then, using your most softest, most gentlest voice
possible, say something to the effect of;
“Son (or daughter), I've been doing some research on the
subject of heroin, heroin addiction, and how difficult
it is for someone to quit heroin. It's almost
impossible."
"I have also been reading and learning about what you go
through while going through the withdrawals, the
vomiting, the cold chills, the diarrhea, the leg pains,
the bone pains, the anxiety attacks, everything and it's
horrible. I'm starting to understand how you feel and
what you go through and I'm very sorry that you have to
go through all of that.”
Re-assure them that you now have a better understanding
of what their going through and why it's so hard for
anyone to quit
this habit. Although you will not understand exactly
what they're going through unless you've been there
yourself and have exerpienced the physical pain and
mental torture of heroin withdrawal, you'll still have a
better understand of what they're going through and now
you can truly empathize with them.
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Most young people will tell you that you don't understand anything of what
their going through. And because of such, you will say
that you have a better understanding of what they are
going through, not that you understand completely but
that you now know enough to realize how hard and painful
it is for anyone to quit a heroin addiction.
Now you have become a partner on their level,
instead of the parent looking down on them. Now they see
you as an understanding person who can understand what
they are going through. Now you are in agreement with
them as to how hard it is to quit heroin. You
are no longer the enemy whom they have to run from. You are now on their side.
While you are speaking to your child,
continue to speak to them in your most kindest and softest voice
possible while rubbing their back to insure
comfort and peace.
If at any time he or she wants to speak then by all means let
your child talk without any interruptions from you
while yet remaining focused on everything
that has to be said. The more your child talks
then the more they will loosen up, see
you as their friend and hopefully begin to let you into their
world.
All you have to do is be quiet, listen and pay
close attention. Your child may start giving
clues on how to help them quit heroin and stay clean
for good. Nod your head in agreement as you
listen intently.
Make eye contact for a moment and then look down. Make
eye contact again and then look down again. Most people
in this type of predicament talk more when you're not
looking directly at them. Most people won't even look you in the eye when confronted.
Therefore,
by you looking down, it will make it much more easier for
your child to
talk to you more freely.
Then, somewhere in the conversation you have to
start asking questions where you know their answers will
be yes. You have to start getting them in the
'yes' mode.
You can ask them or better yet make a closing
statement such as; “so you really do want to quit this
thing, don't you...”. “You really do want to turn your
life around don't you”. The 'don't you' part is to get
them to say yes on their own. Yes, yes, yes.
Then smile, nod your head in agreement with them and put your
right hand on your child's shoulder, look him
right in the eye and say; “I'm going to help you
quit this thing and turn your life around once and for
all.”
This will help to begin to influence him in a positive
manner towards that state of mind where he can start to
'feel' and 'believe' that there is hope,
that he or she is not alone and that
he really can quit this thing and turn his life
around once and for all.
Continue with something like, “Like I said, I've been
doing some research and I found this really cool site
called, you guessed it, 'HowtoQuitHeroin.com' ”. |
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Then pull up your laptop or both of you move up to the
computer. Type in 'how to quit heroin' on
google.com and my site should show up first place.
Bring them right to the main page to where it
says 'How to Quit Heroin'.
Then maybe say something like, "this guys says
there are 4 ways to quit heroin. He's an
x-heroin addict and has not touched the stuff for over
16 years. He must have done something right in his life
to be able to quit heroin and stay clean for good."
Now you've got his attention and curiosity is in the
air. Then keep reading and show him his options
on methods for quitting heroin.
Plan A:
Quitting Heroin Cold Turkey
Plan B:
Quitting Heroin Warm Turkey
with lesser evil opiates i.e. Valiums and Vicodins
Plan C:
Quitting Heroin with Methadone
and/or Suboxone
Plan D:
Quitting Heroin in a Drug
Rehabilitation Facility
Then continue to read the main page to him while making
sure he doesn't fall asleep on you. (You need not worry
if your child finds and reads this article. They will
thank you for it later. He will have a much better
chance for success if he/she reads my site on their
own.)
And when you're done reading the main page, the main
article called “How to Quit Heroin”, then ask him;
“what do you think?, what do you think is the best way
for you to quit? In which manner would you like to quit
this thing? Choose your weapon and lets start
from there”.
Then be quiet and let him speak. Once he shows you which
way HE wants to quit then look your
child straight in the eye, shake his hand and say
“lets
do it”... And get started right there and then.
If your son or daughter chose Plan A
then quickly start reading over my article called
“How
to Quit Heroin Cold Turkey” followed by
“How to Survive the First 7 Days” and then
begin. Follow it to the letter. Try you're best to do
'everything' the articles tell you to do. (Those who do
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succeed.) Make sure both of you read both articles
together.
You as the parent will have to switch rolls from mother
or father to doctor or nurse, to coach, to best friend
,and then back to parent, then to doctor, and
then back to trainer/coach again. Whatever you
do, if your child starts crying, don't you start crying.
That will just bring the both of you down. But if you
must cry, then make it quick. Then cheer up quickly.
If your son or daughter chose Plan B,
quitting heroin with lesser evil opiates such as Valiums
and Vicodins, then please read my article
“How to Quit Heroin with Meds” and then
follow the article step by step.
If your son or daughter chose Plan C,
quitting heroin with Methadone or Suboxone then read the
lower section of the same article
“Quitting Heroin with Meds” and then do it. |
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And if your child chose Plan D,
quitting heroin in a rehabilitation facilities
then great! Start calling your health care insurance
company to see what your options are and begin to make
preparations. For this, you'll want to read my article
“How
to Quit Heroin in a Drug Rehab Center”
to learn which
characteristics to look for in a drug rehabilitation
center.
The only issue left to discuss will be the costs of
enrolling your child in the treatment facilities which will
be dealt with by you and your health insurance company.
If your child is over 18 and you don't have health
insurance but you still have tons of cash then you may
be able to work out a payment schedule with the
drug treatment center.
The most common problem with entering your
child into a drug rehabilitation facilities are the costs
and expenses involved. But if it is financially
attainable, and you've done all you can to help
your child yourself, then by all means, do it.
Whatever the case may be, try not to fret. The truth is,
the best person to help your son or daughter
quit this heroin addiction is you, the mother, and you
the father. Your home will become you child's
drug rehabilitation center. Make it the best place to be.
If by chance your son or daughter becomes uncooperative
at any time and walks out on you or even runs away then
let him go. Don't say a word. Let him go. If you chase
him then he will run. But if you stay still, remain calm
and be quiet then he will come back again.
Your child will not leave it at that, especially after
seeing how calm, helpful, loving and supportive you've
been; especially after discovering the fact that the
only hope he/she has is you, their mother, and you, their
father. It will eat at them from the inside out.
He'll be back. She'll be back. And when he or she does come back,
welcome them with open arms and then start all over again with an
even more positive attitude. And this time,
re-read my article and do what you didn't do or left out
on the first round.
And I do realize that in some situations, there may come
a time in which you have given your child, chance after
chance after chance after chance to no avail, and that
sooner or later you may have to put your foot down and
throw him out. But until then, as long as he truly wants
to quit, then you'll have to do
everything in your power to avoid getting to that place.
You'll have to do whatever it takes to keep
influencing your child in a positive manner in
order to get them on 'the right path' and keep them there.
Whatever you do, don't give up. Don't ever give
up on your child. Don't ever lose hope.
Don't ever stop fighting for the life of your
son or daughter.
And from here on out, your most famous
words to your child will be, “You can do this... you can
do this... be strong... be strong.” You
will begin to brain wash your child
with these words to the point to where they actually
start believing that they really CAN do this. They CAN whip
this thing and turn their life around once and for all!
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The more you keep saying, “You can do this”
then the more those words will begin to become
engraved into their mind and eventually become a reality.
Words move people. Words backed by
positive emotions move, inspire and motivate people to
do the seemingly impossible.
Worse case scenario: If you
simply can't get through to your child then
send them a text message with my website
address:
www.HowtoQuitHeroin.com
That's it. Nothing more, nothing less.
And then hopefully, your child will visit my
website out of curiosity. From there, the rest
is up to them. Anything can happen. So let's
hope for the best.
Remember: This is a fight - a fight for the soles of your
children. So plan wisely and then execute your
plan with full force.
Whatever you do, don't
slow down now. Keep pressing on
and keep moving forward. And always try
your best to show nothing but love to your
child. As the song goes,
Love Can Build a Bridge:
www.youtube.com/watch
You can do this. You CAN influence your
child to start moving in the right direction. You can
try your very best to lead your son or daughter on 'the
right path'.
You can help your son or daughter to quit
heroin and turn their life around once and for all.
You have more control over how your child's life
turns out than what you might think. You
CAN make a difference, starting now.
Good luck. And may the 'Good Force' be with you.
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